You can lose things and losing things sucks. And I imagine we all, those with children and those without, are concerned that children obtain good character traits.
I also believe we understand that much of the character in a person is learned as a young child. They are taught right from wrong, as well as attitudes toward dealing with challenges and other people.
Character lessons should be provided on a consistent basis. In addition, in a survey of teachers conducted by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse, more than half of the respondents reported perceiving a decline in student morality since they began teaching.
Because I believe no matter how cynical an adult or parent … they are all trying to teach children how to be caring, confident, self-aware and respectful of those around them. Researchers at The Institute for Global Ethics report that five core values — truth, compassion, fairness, responsibility, and respect — consistently cut across cultural, religious, and socioeconomic lines.
I cannot argue with any of them. In fact I actually like both lists. I know the world has changed but growing up I do not remember idolizing anyone in particular. They were not perfect but they offered a lot of good qualities that I inevitably evaluated my own behavior later in life. Some lessons were tough. And some lessons I still resent today.
I began a dialogue with friends and colleagues to see if they were noticing the same phenomenon. It seems I am not alone in my observations. I decided to do something about it! Or, maybe you feel it is too late to help your kid. Over 28 years of working with teens and children have shown me that it is possible to change — them and you. Parents — you have enormous potential and you have the Power! I want you to remember the excitement, and maybe the fear, you felt when you first held your baby.
Remember all the dreams and the potential that literally lay in your hands. Your children, regardless of their current ages, need you to dream and believe in them as much as they need you to set boundaries.
Parents need to remember the incredible job they signed on to perform. One of the few things that can piss Mercury off is suggesting that he loves someone; he refuses to ever love anyone.
Adam: What is love to you, Mercury? Mercury: Love is smashing a bottle of beer over someone's head to help them grow stronger. Love is breaking someone's fingers one by one so they can get used to pain. Love is kicking someone's crutches away so they can learn to walk. Love is a man beating his wife to death in front of her son because she doesn't want him anymore. It was a brutal regime that punished failure The house of Black always believed pain strengthened the mind.
This leads to an intense rivalry with Kovu, eventually leading to Nuka's death when he tries to gain Zira's affection by killing Simba, only for him to be crushed by the falling logs that were meant to kill Simba.
This is followed by Zira's first and last on-screen act of affection for Nuka when she frantically tries to save him and holds him as he dies. He doesn't get why Max is so protective of his owner's young son, Liam.
Max wants to protect Liam from everything, but Rooster recognizes that Liam doesn't need it. Rooster : Kid seems fine to me. You're the one who's scared of everything. Character : Evidently Dreverhaven's whole motivation in how he treats his illegitimate son. Having not been involved in his son's life, he resolves to continually screw with him, apparently in the belief that it will make Jacob stronger. And it works, as Jacob becomes a successful lawyer largely to spite his father. A Song of Ice and Fire has several examples, played straight, subverted and even averted at times.
This is also possibly the only explanation for the way Lord Asriel treats his daughter Lyra in the His Dark Materials trilogy. He even tells his former lover and mother of his daughter that he does not love his child; describing the girl as a "spoiled brat with dirty fingernails" However it is later revealed that he does indeed care for his daughter, he expresses admiration in The Amber Spyglass for her exploits in Svalbard and for successfully tricking the former bear-king into a duel for the throne.
In one of the standalone supplementary guides to the whole trilogy, it is mentioned that the author's notes have him keeping a framed portrait of Lyra in his home. All this is masked by showing outward contempt for the poor girl when she finally comes looking for him.
And by killing her best friend! Monster Hunter International : Owen Pitt remembers himself and his brother enduring this as a child. Because their father knew one of them would give his life for the world. Private : Noelle Lange's grandmother employed this in Vanished. Knowing Reed to be her granddaughter, she decided to test her loyalty by faking Noelle's kidnapping and giving Reed a series of challenges to perform in order to save Noelle's life.
At the end of Vanished she and Noelle come clean to Reed about the whole thing. Grandmother Lange's entire scheme in the book was to test that Reed was worthy of being a Lange. And that's not even the whole story Michael's father in the Knight and Rogue Series is a firm believer of this. To give his son the steady, comfortable job of a steward, he's willing to crush Michael's dreams and even strip him of legal rights so he'll have no option but 'the best'.
In The Dosadi Experiment by Frank Herbert loving parents italics his treat their offspring harshly to give them the strength and will to survive in a hostile and unforgiving world. Baloo the bear from The Jungle Book not the Disney one is the teacher of the young wolves of the pack and Mowgli , and he'll often cuff the wolves on the head or spank Mowgli for misbehaving.
When Bagheera the black panther objects to the bear's stern methods towards Mowgli, Baloo remains firm in his belief of discipline. Live-Action TV. In Beyond Scared Straight , this is the mindset of most of the parents who send their teens into the Scared Straight programs. If the kids won't listen to their parents, maybe they'll listen to prisoners warning them about what jail is like , as well as the correctional officers who will treat them like prisoners.
In the first episode of Conviction , Hayes' mother warns her that if she blows off the Convictions Integrity Unit, then the family plans to turn her cocaine-possession charge into possession-with-an-intent-to-distribute, in order to motivate her to actually work. Crazy Ex-Girlfriend kind of deconstructs this. Apparently, all of the behavior that Rebecca's mother showed her all of her life was to toughen her up for the real world.
Considering how messed up Rebecca turned out in the end, it may have backfired. Doctor Who : In "Fugitive of the Judoon" , the Thirteenth Doctor's companions try to make it clear to her that isolating herself isn't fair on them, but that they also care about her.
Rita from The Fosters is this trope personified. She cares for the foster girls in the group home she runs, but she takes not shit from them and breaking the rules gets privileges taken away. Although some of the girls begin resistant to her authority, they mostly seem to realize she actually does have their best interests in mind.
Will is feeling guilty because he feels responsible for the death of Uncle Phil's political opponent in the run for district court judge note Will gave Judge Robertson a "Reason You Suck" Speech that ended with Will telling Robertson to "drop dead" Carlton hatches a plan to help Will out of his funk by using this trope. It backfires. A memorable example occurred in a season 6 episode of Friends with Bruce Willis 's character demonstrating Manly Tears whilst reminiscing with Rachel over his relationship with his father.
Too bad this led to an excessive display of tears leading Rachel to dump him. On an episode of House Cuddy realizes that her mother pushed her to succeed because she saw potential in her more than her sister. In How I Met Your Mother , this is what Robin calls her father's parenting techniques, which include making her burn her clothes and shipping her to a boys' military school, sending her to a foaling farm after she was caught kissing a boy, and abandoning her in the wolf-infested woods for three days on her fourteenth birthday.
Robin: I did almost die from malnutrition on that wolf hunt last year. Robin's dad: I had to almost kill you for you to learn how to kill. The song is all about the trope, with the titular Sue being landed with the name to ensure that he grows up to be badass after a childhood of bullying over his name. The song ends with "Sue" confronting his dad, learning his intentions, and deciding to avert this trope if he ever has a son.
Arguably Hamlet is using Tough Love to persuade Ophelia to leave him. This may have been the Witch's excuse in Into the Woods for how she treated Rapunzel.
The Witch : I was trying to be a good mother. Video Games. Persona : With Persona 4 's Social Links , the player is encouraged to do this with the use of Dialogue Trees - the Social Links all revolve around helping a person overcome their own issues, and the protagonist essentially serves a role like a therapist.
Being blunt and honest , but also fair and not belittling or insulting, is generally considered the best option, and will result in the most positive response and allow quicker progression through the Link. Many of the more blunt options require a certain amount of Courage, Expression, or Understanding to perform.
By contrast, coddling or ignoring the problems will result in the worst responses, and make the Link slower to complete. This tie's into the game's Central Theme of uncovering truths both about the world and about yourself, no matter how terrible they may be. Persona 5 Player Character Joker gets this from Sojiro, his guardian while he's on probation in Tokyo.
Since Joker's situation is extremely precarious and any trouble will result in him going to juvenile hall, Sojiro is quite strict at first, and is hesitant to trust Joker with anything.
Furthermore, since Joker got in trouble while saving a woman from a drunk man who happens to be a very powerful politician that eventually runs for Prime Minister , Sojiro insists that Joker keep his head down and not cause any trouble for anyone. Late in his Confidant, Sojiro admits that he may have been wrong about this approach. Sae Niijima, a prosecutor who ends up looking after her younger sister Makoto after their father's death , does this with Makoto.
She's fairly strict with Makoto and often insists that Makoto focus on her studies , but it's shown that this is because Sae believes that the world is a harsh and competitive place, especially for women. Unfortunately, while Sae does love Makoto, her intentions are tainted because of her obsession with getting a promotion and her jealousy of Makoto, desires that are distorted enough for Sae to have a Palace of her own. On top of pushing her to undergo Training from Hell that involved extensive prayer at sacred springs including one icy spring in which she had passed out , he also became a Fantasy-Forbidding Father , denying her the opportunity to study the ancient Sheikah Magitek that was being uncovered at the time so she would concentrate more on her training.
Not only did Rhoam realize and deeply regret how this was ruining his relationship with his daughter, he also started slowly realizing that it was not helping her unlock her powers.
Unfortunately, the very day he resolved to start treating her more kindly and maybe even let her study the Sheikah tech is the day Ganon returned, killed him, and destroyed Hyrule. In Fallout 4 , Strong the super mutant has a rather twisted yet well-meaning, in his mind way of this trope: by fighting and killing.
In Psychonauts , it turns out that rather than putting Raz through acrobatic Training from Hell in a bid to quash his psychic powers or kill him, his dad, Augustus, actually did it to make absolutely sure Raz could survive whatever dangers came his way, as their family has, as he puts it, "a lot of enemies", as evidenced by the Gypsy Curse put on them regarding water.
However, Raz didn't see it this way and saw Augustus as a Boomerang Bigot who hated psychics despite being one himself, leading to a mental version of Augustus being one of the final bosses. It takes Augustus showing up in the Meat Circus and bestowing an 11th-Hour Superpower onto Raz to convince him otherwise. In Deus Ex: Human Revolution , Adam Jensen can use this trope in certain instances of Talking the Monster to Death - it's literally one of the selectable options in the case of Sandoval.
Ravena, who made his son, Gale Ravena , do hard, literal backbreaking labor it was so severe that it gave his son constant back pain and treated him as essentially a slave who does everything his father demands.
When confronted about this by the titile duo, he claims that he did it to turn his Lazy Bum son into a hard worker who will be ready for the task of running Ravena.
Instead, his son runs away from home and hates him so much that he becomes the Big Bad who masterminds the entire takeover of Ravena as a revenge plot, while also becoming abusive to his girlfirned Jeanne and trying to make her capture and kill his father. Girl Genius : Klaus Wulfenbach orders his son around much like minions and unlike minions constantly gives him hard and sometimes sneaky tests.
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